Sexuality
Working out whether you are gay, lesbian, bi or straight can be very confusing.
There’s a lot of pressure on us about sex. Pressure to have sex before we’re ready, to think that masturbation is dirty, to pull lots and to fancy Britney Spears or David Beckham types. It all gets a bit stressful if you’re a girl and realise you’d like to curl up in bed with Britney or if you’re a boy and wouldn’t mind a steamy shower with David after a game of footie.
Some people may know from a very young age that they are gay, lesbian or bisexual and others may be confused about their sexuality right into adulthood. Working out whether you are gay, lesbian, bi or straight can be very confusing. You don’t have to tell your friends anything about your sexuality or who you fancy unless you want to, but remember it does help to talk.
Telling friends or family can be hard to do but if you choose someone you trust, the chances are they will be more supportive than you think. Whatever sexuality you are, remember, it is only one part of your life so stay calm and don’t panic.
“I’ve had boyfriends but I’ve also kissed girls when I’m drunk. It’s all just a bit a craic. I don’t wanna think about if I’m bisexual or straight until I’ve tried a bit of everything!” Charlene, 19
What is sexuality?
Sexuality is about how you think, act and feel. Part of your sexuality is your sexual identity. This is decided by what sex you fancy (boys or girls) or if you fancy both. During puberty and our teen years we start to explore our sexuality and to figure out what we like.
There are 3 main types of sexual identity: heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual. You can feel unsure about your sexuality or what you find attractive might change during your life. Your sexual identity is something you should take time to decide about: what you like and feel comfortable with is different for everyone.
Remember that even if you feel lonely and different to everyone else, there are lots of other people who think like you.
Organizations to help:
http://www.belongto.org/
http://www.gayhealthproject.com/
Thanks to
www.spunout.ie for this information.